Coming Out To My Coworkers

I was actually writing a different post but I have been so busy planning my whole birthday week, I don’t mean to flex on y’all like that but it is my b day week so I feel as if its justified. (I’m going to the movies, shopping, sixflags, the beach, the club, and eating sushi).

Just this week alone I have came out to two people. One of them was an old coworker that I don’t see that often any more since she no longer works with me. But we kept in contact all these years and still hang out often. I wanted to talk to her and see how she was doing and also tell her everything that was going on in my life. She wanted to do the same.

We took a walk in the park and after we gossiped about everything that we needed to catch up on I told her I needed to tell her something. It was hard, because as humans we fear the unknown and we fear the rejection we will receive if we are not accepted. But it went well. She said she is proud of me. She also told me that its good that I am now living for myself and not for other people. She even cried and hugged me and it felt so liberating. Why did I put it off for so long?

The other person is one of my current coworkers. She is a really sweet person. I have gotten to know her and bond with her over the course of just a few months. I really actually didn’t even need to come out to her. It was the most beautiful thing I’ve ever felt.

I told her I left my old religion since she knew I was in it from when I met her. Then a couple days passed and I told her I was going to celebrate my B day with some friends at the beach. While I told her the reasons why I left my old religion ‘I couldn’t be the person I wanted to be,’ she kind of got the clue. If she didn’t then she must have after I told her I was going to a my favorite gay night club also on my birthday. Her response was “OMG how fun, I have 3 gay friends.” Don’t know how to feel about that but I know she was only trying to be accepting in her own way. I hope she can come to the club with all my friends. I have friends that are taking other friends, it feels nice I’m not gonna lie.

Today, one of the very first people to welcome me to the job were I’m at said she wanted to take me out for sushi. I said hell yeah! I told her that its perfect since I did want to tell her something. She told me no biggie what ever it was she would be there for me. I love that.

Everything seems to be going well. SEEMS. But we will see. I am so grateful that I have all these supportive people in my life. But this is the real world we do live in. And I know some people will be furious by what I do, and I have to learn to accept that, and also not care about it. Even though some of those people will be people I really cared about.

But in the mean time, 25 here I come!

2 thoughts on “Coming Out To My Coworkers

  1. I’m glad you have started to build a support system. That’s so important at this time. My middle brother, who is a teacher in Spain, came out a few years ago, and it was such a weight lifted off of him. He’s adopted by another family (shortly after he was born my mom gave him up) and they are super religious, so it didn’t go as smooth in the family department … but I think he finally reached a point that he just didn’t care anymore. If people love you and truly want your happiness, they will support you – even if they don’t completely understand.

    I don’t know what it is about us straight women, but we love to show our support by making sure our gay friends know we have other gay friends. My husbands best friend is gay and he calls us do-gooders of the gay community, “Unicorns”. Yesterday he video called me and we did our makeup together while gossiping. I think in a mixed bag world, we are just always so eager to make sure people know how supportive we are. My husbands friend said we just need to act like normal people and be low-key like they are no different than anyone else – because they aren’t. It makes sense.

    My 15 year old is either bi-sexual or pansexual or …. something. I’m not sure she completely knows, but I’ve known since she was a little girl that she would not grow up to be heterosexual. It was confirmation for me, that people are in fact born a certain way. Though I was never judgmental on a persons sexuality, I think it really opened my eyes when I had her, and have that bond and connection to her, to just instinctively know that my kid would grow up to be “not the norm” whatever that is.

    You will encounter bad vibes from this revelation, but just look at it as you weeding out the fake people in your life. It’s going to hurt a bit, but you will be stronger for it. Just please, please remember who you love is nobody’s business. Also, be careful because the hateraid is strong out there, and people are still getting hurt over their sexual preferences.

    Be happy and enjoy your birthday week 🙂

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